Excuses for not dating someone
What matters most is that he’s not an asshole to you. It has nothing to do what he looks like, what he does for a living, his race, or anything superficial. If you’re not sure what that entails, read the points on my article “How to Choose the Right Person for You” as a reference. If you’re always using any of these 7 excuses, you may be staying with the wrong guy. If he’s not giving you that, then I hate to break it to you… If that were true, we’d all be with the first person we ever dated. Staying in a relationship out of “need” is never the right reason. Otherwise, you’re just in a co-dependent relationship. I understand he may have had a rough childhood or is stressed out at work, but he doesn’t have the right to project it onto you. That would immediately place him in the “better” category. You’re afraid of the change or of having to put yourself out there again. But I promise a little bit of effort is worth finding a healthy partner who truly makes you happy. We’ve been writing about the same romantic experiences and epiphanies for thousands of years.
He could be covered in tattoos and dress gangster for all I care. You’re overlooking the red flags because you’re into him. Of course you are different from everyone else — you’re an individual. We do understand because most of us have went through the “us vs the world” phase ourselves. If you find yourself using these excuses often, consider dating someone you don’t have to make excuses for.
And how do you figure out how a person feels about you — or tell them how you feel about them — without either of you feeling uncomfortable?Dating can be hard, especially because so much of it, despite all of our effort and most optimistic energy, turns out to be a giant waste of time.